What Do We Do With Different
The Armenian Genocide began in 1915, during World War 1, when the Armenians were murdered and displaced from their cities. At the final lap of this atrocity in 1922, it was reported that between 700,000 and 1.5 million Armenians were murdered.
In the space of over a decade from 1933 when the Nazis came to power in Germany, over 6 million Jews and 6 million non-Jews – Blacks, Roma, Slavic groups – were killed during the holocaust.
And barely 24 years ago, the world bore witness to the Rwandan Genocide, which took place between April and July of 1994. The death toll is put at between 500,000 to 1 million – almost 20% of the Rwandan population and 70% of the Tutsi people.
In all these cases, the attackers did not simply wake up one day and decide to bathe the streets with the blood of other humans. No, there were whispers before time, murmurings that were left to fester and seeds of hate that were given soil to germinate.
According to the United Nations Office on Genocide Prevention and the Responsibility to Protect, Genocide was codified as an independent crime in the 1948 Convention on the Prevention and Punishment of the Crime of Genocide (the Genocide Convention).
In the present Convention, genocide means any of the following acts committed with intent to destroy, in whole or in part, a national, ethnical, racial or religious group, as such:
- Killing members of the group;
- Causing serious bodily or mental harm to members of the group;
- Deliberately inflicting on the group conditions of life calculated to bring about its physical destruction in whole or in part;
- Imposing measures intended to prevent births within the group;
- Forcibly transferring children of the group to another group.
According to Gregory H. Stanton, the genocidal process has 5 stages.
The first is Classification – where people are divided into categories. This classification can be based on ethnicity or religion. There is an “us” versus “them” mentality and people are treated on the strength of what group they belong to.
Second is Symbolization – we use symbols and names to identify our classifications. Yoruba, Igbo, Hausa, Muslim, Christian, Atheist, Traditional Worshipper. The Hijab means something. So does the Habit. And the Veil. And rosaries. And Tribal marks. And skin color. And so on.
Dehumanization – where the humanity of others is denied. Where they are viewed and referred to as less than human beings. This is how you can look at another human and take their life with no regrets, because in that moment, they cease to be humans. They become a disease, an infection, something that needs to be gotten rid of before it causes pollution.
Organization – “us” versus “them”. One group organizing itself against another deemed to be different. Think terrorism, ethnic clashes.
Polarization – here, the middle is destroyed. There is retaliation and people who are seen as moderates are killed so eventually, it is extremists fighting each other and hope of reconciliation is lost.
(By the way, the first sets of people who are killed in genocide are moderates, people like you and I who are in the middle, want “no trouble”, but who also kept silent when the seeds were planted around us).
Preparation – identification is important here. People are targeted by the identification of their ethnic or religious group. It can be attacking women who wear hijab (hijab-wearing in this case being a method of identification) or attacking women who do not wear hijabs (not wearing hijab in this case being a method of identification).
The seventh step is Extermination – this being a term that is mostly used for the killing of animals, because in the eyes of the perpetrators, the victims are no longer human. Targeted groups are killed in their numbers, their bodies mutilated and buried in mass graves.
And then comes the Denial stage, where there is quibbling on which side lost more people, who started it, what is the proof that the numbers are accurate or the happenings are confirmed.
Think on these eight processes, and maybe like me, your mind will take you on a journey through happenings in different parts of Nigeria that elicited some of these EXACT reactions.
On the lower end of the scale, the total number of people who were murdered in the three genocides highlighted above comes up to over 13 million. And these are only 3 examples – the world has experienced many other instances where we forgot to reflect on the rights of others’ and our equality in the eyes of the universe.
Genocide sounds abominable, as a lot of shocking things do when viewed through the lens of history. But look at the world today, look at Nigeria and you’ll be able to draw similarities in the events that led to these happenings.
We live in a world that is so obsessed with similarities, in perceived dominance and in the inherent belief that different must always translate to good or bad, better or worse, normal or exceptional, preferred or blacklisted, forgetting that different can just be that – different.
Of the major genocides that have occurred in the history of the world, the root have often been differences; whether that difference is owing to Race, Ethnicity, Class, Religion or Caste.
You only need to look at the atmosphere in our country to know that whether we admit it or not, there are harmful divides formed on the basis of some of these differences, especially religious and ethnic. If we continue to let these seeds of hate get rooted in the earth until they become trees, I promise you we will all be affected; Muslim, Christian, Igbo, Hausa, Yoruba, everyone.
What can YOU do with different?
- Remember that in the end, we’re all just people.
Before we were labelled by the world, we were humans.
In that one word was all the similarity that we needed to accord each other the respect we desire. When we’re hungry, we eat. At some point in life, we seek for people who make us feel like we can touch the sky, and work that adds sparkles to our day. We laugh at similar jokes online and are inspired by happenings in countries far away from ours – think viral contents.
Learn another language if you can. Educate yourself and people around you. Don’t give people in your group the impression that it’s okay to talk derisively about a group of people just because they are different. Reject classifications that seek to dehumanize. Read! Hold your religious leaders to higher standards, the one that preaches love and humanity and not hate. Hold yourself to a higher standard.
Ultimately, we’re all on a journey here.
- Recondition your mind-set.
Some people were never taught to look beyond differences. I acknowledge this truth.
And so they grew up with this disdain of people who do not worship God the way they do or speak the language of their birth. Your upbringing was not your responsibility, but how you live your life as an adult is.
Reach beyond the spaces and people you’re familiar with. Engage with people who are different and do so with an open mind. It can be as simple as smiling at someone who embodies ‘different’, where previously, you would have kept a death stare.
Get to know people for who they are, not what you have been fed to believe about them.
- Realize that another’s truth does not invalidate yours.
Why is it that Igbos must be bad before Hausas can be good? Why does Islam have to be evil before Christianity is worth following?
Our lives are a culmination of our beliefs, upbringing, encounters and experiences. The truths in our personal experiences do not render another’s experience invalid. Why is it that you feel strongly about your truth, but find it arrogant that another person feels the same way about theirs?
Until we truly internalize this, we will always fight for supremacy and render each other less than human.
- Seek to know.
It is amazing how much people do not know about a different belief or tribe beyond what they have been spoon-fed.
Speak respectfully to someone of a different faith about their belief. Ask questions. Seek to know. It’s amazing how willing people are to share and answer our questions with the right manner of approach.
None of us know everything, or even close to it. None of us ever will. Why then do we make ourselves the authority about another religion, another tribe when in reality we know next to nothing?
- Give of yourself.
This can be of your time and expertise.
You’re a lawyer? Can you find loopholes in the law that makes it possible for people to commit these crimes and get away with it? The Senate had to pay attention to the ‘not too young to run’ bill because people just didn’t let it go.
Are you gifted with words? Then, use them. Start with the people around you. Remind them of why we cannot afford to forget our humanity.
There are numerous ways to give of yourself, through the tools that you already possess.
- Remember, sameness is overrated.
Imagine living in a world where we all speak the same way, have the same opinions, like the same things, disliked the same things and the list continues. What a monotonous, SUPERBLY colorless world it will be!
I know for sure, I don’t want any part of that world.
We must consciously remind ourselves to reject single stories about other groups of people the same way we balk at one-sided stories about ourselves.
What do we do with different? We let different be, because we understand we all belong to the Earth. And the Earth belongs to all of us.
It’s sad that we view different as bad in our societies. We are humans first, and if we all respect people based on this fact, I’m sure our world will be a better place.
A much better place, Precious.
For some reason, categorization and segmentation is such a big part of our world.
Hopefully, we’ll learn to let love lead.
Wow this cut deep.
Thank you for sharing ways in which we can strive to foster the love that this world so desperately needs.
Thank you for reading, Tolu!
I hope we’ll take action.
Looking at this on a local scale, I believe that different zones of Nigeria are in different Stages of Genocide ad Stated by Gregory H Stanton.
The Political (Ruling) class against the electorate (rule).. where cases of oporesision and killing have be carried out against the less powerful.
Or the case of the OSU people in South Eastern Nigerian, whereby they are seen not fit to hold positions and marry the average igbo person ( a Case of condescending them to be less and unclean humans)
Cases of different stages of genocidal acts abound in Nigeria, and if care is not taken, it might culminate to consume the Nation.
In all this article makes a good read. Thumbs up to the author for detailing reasons why we should embrace our diversity.
I absolutely agree with you.
It’s why in the post, there was a part that went thus; “Think on these eight processes, and maybe like me, your mind will take you on a journey through happenings in different parts of Nigeria that elicited some of these EXACT reactions.”
And that is why we must speak up and effect changes in the places and ways that we can, so that this cloud of hate does not consume us all.
Thank you for contributing!
This is a clearer picture of what we are experiencing in Nigeria, well articulated, capture the today’s division reality without mincing words.
I wish these can be translated to languages our youths would all understand.
We can’t continue to annihilate potentials on the alter of religious and sectional divides.
We truly truly cannot continue with the annihilation.
Thank you for your contribution!
Thanks for this beautiful piece. We really need a more tolerant society. To be different is human. It should be appreciated and not despised. No two humans are same. A world without different would definitely be a boring one.
That we might all learn this simple truth – to be different is human.
And ultimately, I mean, we’re all different to somebody.
Thank you for stopping by!
Hmmmm. This post is deep. For the research, thumbs up girl. You already know how I feel about your writing. I’m jealous ?
On another note, I’m particularly hit by the message. The reality of this. I hope that the lessons learnt from this post and tips given aren’t one I’ll just sigh over and move on. I’ll revisit often, to remind myself of what I must know.
How amazing when we just live in peace. But somehow, sometimes, even unconsciously, we always find the things that make us unlike another and judge with that. I truly hope, we can reform our minds. I think that’s the greatest tip for me. If we all know in our minds that different is OK, good, in fact, then we’ll be sure to remember that one’s truth doesn’t and probably cannot invalidate another’s.
I hope the message keeps spreading and we keep finding ways of seeing that in another’s difference, we’re still alike in some way, no matter how insignificant that similarity may seem, so we understand that harming or hating them amounts to harming or hating ourselves too.
Thumbs up T. You’re using your voice the right way. ??
Thank you so much, V.
It’s the battle for supremacy, where there is no basis for comparison to start with.
This is why history is so important, so we don’t repeat the mistakes of the past.
War just takes blood, and it’s not discriminatory either. It can be anybody’s.
Please internalize this message. And thank you for always being a light. ?.
Laolu Poe Alani
I found your opinions refreshing and you present a clear way to proceed. More people should read this! It applies to the Nigerian situation.
Thank you so much, Laolu.
We’re at a defining stage in our relations as a people. I can only hope we work practically towards making the right choices.
A long time ago, I watched a movie about the Rwandan Genocide – Title was Sometime in April or so. It was a sad one.
When Radio Biafra started playing on the airways I was reminded again of that movie. You see, seeds of hate on radio stirred a lot the killings in Rwanda. It started happening in Nigeria with that station.
It’s a bit complex talking about the divide we have in Nigeria. So many elements of symbolizations- ethnicity, religion, class that drown the simple fact that we are all human who came into this world with absolutely nothing and would leave the exact same way.
If there were regard for ourselves as humans, the oppression, nepotism, stark hate that is steadily on the rise will not even exist.
Thank you, so much, for your contribution.
It is true; humans never just wake up and decide to start killing other people. There is a subconscious and conscious preparation that has to be done before then. I imagine it is why the stages of genocide exist.
We must continue to use our voice, to speak up and against the people who seek to define us as other than human.